Going Back To Work After Maternity Leave… The Mommy Guilt, The Good, The Bad And Tips On How To Survive

Going Back To Work After Maternity Leave… The Mommy Guilt, The Good, The Bad And Tips On How To Survive 2 So as you all know by now, I have some issues regarding maternity leave in South Africa… and having to return to work when Knox is barely 4 months old is one of them. The first time around (when I had Mikayla Rose) I was young, had PND and could not wait to get back to work – to be honest, we had some issues bonding (read more about that here) and I was going batshit crazy at home. I felt like I was failing at being a mom, and running away to work seemed Continue reading

What to expect when your wife is expecting. 

My husband wrote this post – What To Expect When Your Wife Is Expecting – rather interesting to see it from a man’s perspective! Definitely share this with dad’s to be, he is pretty spot on!

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I was washing my car one Saturday morning when my wife brought me a hotdog and a coke.  “I’m pregnant.” There was about 15 seconds of silence between us which was actually louder than its sounds. We had been engaged for a couple months and I think she was waiting for me to freak out and rush off to the pub. But I didn’t. I was genuinely happy. I was gonna be a dad!

Looking back on our pregnancy (I say “our pregnancy” because you are both pregnant! Don’t fool yourself.) I wish I was told a few things about what to expect from a pregnant woman. We all know the stereotypes of a pregnant lady but they are always told to us in a light-hearted “it’s-not-the-kind-of-thing-you-need-to-prepare-for”  kind of way. For new dads, like I was, it’s nothing short of terrifying.

Firstly, always be available. Your wife is growing your…

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Having A Baby? Clicks PaedIQ Baby Bootcamp 2015 Is For You! {Giveaway Closed}

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Local retailer Clicks and South Africa’s first paediatric 24/7 hotline Paed-IQ, have joined hands for the third annual national parenting workshop.

The Clicks PaedIQ Baby Bootcamp 2015 is aimed at new and expectant parents, providing them with access to holistic, baby-related information in time for their big day. The bootcamps will kick off in Cape Town on 28 February 2015, Johannesburg on 28 March and Port Elizabeth on 23 May 2015.  This year the roadshow includes Port Elizabeth and Bloemfontein.

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According to Paediatrician Dr Iqbal Karbanee of BabyLine, there is a huge need for a workshop such as this amongst new parents. “In the past we targeted Cape Town, Johannesburg, Durban and Pretoria, however we always get requests from parents in other parts of the country for workshops and now we are bringing the experience to them too.”

Speakers will include Paediatricians, Midwives, Psychologists, Dieticians and Biokineticists. All aimed at helping Moms and Dads prepare for the arrival of their little miracle. Come join the fun! Lots of giveaways, goodie bags and prizes.

The cost per entry is R180 and delegates can expect an amazing goodie bag filled with great products as well as entry into a lucky draw for incredible hampers.

Refreshments and snacks will be served at each event, so please visit CLICK HERE to book your seat online.

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You can also join the Facebook Event Page here.


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I’m Still Here…

Hi Everyone! Remember me?

I know I have been quiet as a mouse, but following the birth of my baby boy and his stay in NICU I have just been completely focused on my family.

First of all I would like to thank all of you for your kind words of encouragement, support, love and patience. It really helped so much to get me through a difficult time – I can never express enough gratitude.

Knox is finally at home with us and we are all completely in love with him! It was so odd when they finally took all of his big tubes off – he didn’t look anything like I thought he did once the swelling went down and we could see his face properly, I also saw his hair for the first time as they could finally take the cap off that held all the tubes in place… so odd that I only really saw my son properly about 5 days after he was born.

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After they let me hold him for the first time he improved so much that they let me try nurse him the next day, from there on the recovery has been unbelievable… all he needed was a loving touch, something we were not allowed to do at all for the first couple of days as he might not have been able to handle the stimulation.

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Holding him for the first time, my heart have never felt so complete.

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Mikayla is handling having a baby brother so well, I was worried that she might feel left out or excluded. I did not think she understood the situation properly, but once again i completely underestimated my daughter and she astounded me with her intelligence and compassion. I really need to stop doing that. She only got to see Knox for the first time through the window of the NICU on day 5 (kids are not allowed in the NICU) – she was smitten. She cried every day that I came home without him and got excited every morning that I left for the hospital because maybe… just maybe. The night before we thought he might come home we started preparing everything at home, Mikayla was adamant on washing his bottles – the perks of Montessori!

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She kisses him every opportunity she gets, she sings him lullaby’s and tells him stories – you cannot comprehend the cuteness! When she holds him she has the proudest look on her face… I feel sorry for the girlfriends in Knox’s future (not as sorry as I feel for the men in Mikayla’s).

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So far everything is going fine, I am a little bit more sore this time around than with Mikayla – I had a c-section for both. I guess it has to do with going over scar tissue again or something, I’m not sure.

I will probably still be a bit quiet for the next week or two, but I am working on a couple of competitions as well as some rad articles and reviews, so watch this space xxx

So much love for you all!

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Knox Hunter Vader Halliday – An Update (Day 3)

So as you know by now, our little boy was born on 5 December 2014 at 10:30am and four weeks early (36weeks exactly).

I was in labour for about 15 hours during which my doctor tried to stop the contractions, but unfortunately all attempts were unsuccessful and we had to go ahead with the Caesarian.

Despite my doctor’s best efforts (steroid shots, etc), Knox’s lungs were very immature and he had a lot of fluid on them – he has been in the NICU at Kingsbury Hospital on oxygen since he left the theatre to help his lungs reach full capacity, they put him on antibiotics to eliminate any risk of infection due to the fluid on his lungs and he was placed on a feeding tube.

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Baby Bump Update – 36 weeks + Birth!

Baby Bump Update - 36 weeks + Birth! So we’ve reached 36 weeks!!! Amazing how time is flying. Everything was ready, we were all just waiting… We even had the Christmas tree and all the presents sorted out! Coincidently, I also finished all of my UIF paperwork the day before and had a lunch date with Mikayla earlier in the day (this was something I was planning to do the day before my scheduled c-section and was very important to me). Knox must have sensed this as on 4 December 2015 at 7:30pm my contractions started and I went into labour…

It started feeling like Braxton Hicks, I have been experiencing quite a lot of these in my third trimester, but something was different. The contractions seemed to start in my lower back and pulled its way around my tummy like a belt – it wasn’t painful though so I did not worry too much. They became more and more frequent, and they didn’t go away… I usually get about four big semi-painful Braxton Hicks and then they disappear – not this time. I counted eight contractions in 40 minutes spaced roughly 3 minutes apart and lasting for about a minute each. These were too consistent so I phoned the Maternity Ward at Kingsbury Hospital. The sister on call advised me that it was a little strange that they weren’t very painful, and to take a shower, drink loads of water and lie on my side for about an hour – if they didn’t disappear before then I was to come in for a check-up. I did the above mentioned, but waited an extra hour – I felt so embarrassed – I didn’t want to go in and then it was nothing! (I’ve already been to the Maternity Ward twice before – false alarms). At 10:00pm the contractions where about 1:30 minutes apart lasting 40 seconds each and they were getting painful, very, very painful…. There was no denying it – it was time! We dropped Mikayla off at the in-laws and made our way through to the hospital where I was placed on a fetal heartbeat and contraction monitor.

Baby Bump Update - 36 weeks + Birth!

Baby Bump Update - 36 weeks + Birth!
The sister confirmed that I was indeed in labour, I was admitted for the night and Dr. Jansen (a.k.a Rockstar Gynea) was notified. She was concerned about delivering the baby at exactly 36 weeks – she was worried that his lungs would not be fully mature enough. She had the sister give me a Morphine injection in a bid to try stop the labour – it didn’t work – it did not even take the pain away enough for me to be able to sleep. I was also given a steroid injection to help mature his lungs just in case.
The contractions remained frequent and intense. I was about 1cm dilated and my cervix was paper thin. By 8:00am the next morning Dr. Jansen came around and had me placed on a drip as a second attempt to stop labour – once again it did not work and after about 15 hours of labour in total, I was rolled into theatre and they performed a c-section.

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Cole was absolutely amazing through all of this… He is the best husband a girl could ever ask for. He held my hand, kissed me, distracted me through every injection (I have a huge fear of needles), he was just amazing. Another very special, amazing part was that Cole’s oldest and dearest friends’ wife, Manna, came in to assist Dr. Jansen in delivering our baby. This is seriously the nicest, sweetest person you will ever meet – it was so great having her there, she really made me feel relaxed and put my mind at ease. It was very special.

Knox was born at 10:30am on 5 December 2014 and when he gave his first cry… It was the most beautiful sound I have ever heard in my life. He weighs 2.97kg and is 50cm tall – not bad for being four weeks early. I got to hold him for less than a minute as he was having trouble breathing – as predicted.

Baby Bump Update - 36 weeks + Birth! He had some fluid on his lungs so they let us take a quick family photo before taking him through to the NICU unit – Cole went with and followed him the entire day to put my mind at ease!

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I have been in bed all day recovering from the c-section and getting feeling back in to my legs after the epidural, I will only be able to see my little boy again tomorrow after all my tubes, drips, etc. have been removed and I’m allowed to walk around. I cannot describe how heartbreaking it is not to be able to hold him.. Not to be able to see him is just… I don’t know, it is killing me. Cole kept bringing me photos and videos of him so that helped a little bit.

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